Friday, March 6, 2015

Wedding Thoughts

There's a lot of weddings this summer!  I love weddings, like most ladies do, and I can't wait to go to a few of them!  My nephew is getting married to the sweetest girl!  They both have such a heart for God and I look forward to seeing what God has planned for their lives.

A lot of girls have a list of things their looking for in a husband. Maybe some guys have lists of what their looking for in a girl too.  That's a good thing and we've encouraged our children to do the same thing, before Mr. or Miss wonderful come along so that list isn't made to fit the one person!  With lists also comes the problem of maybe expecting too much out of a young man or young lady.  Not that we shouldn't have high expectations, but we do need to remind ourselves that none of us have "arrived" yet! Seriously, I could hardly cook when I got married.  I'm sure my mom tried to teach me but I was the baby in the family and my older sisters were more than welcome to take the job!  If Arthur had that I needed to be a good cook on his list, we would never have married!   If you do keep a list, here's a few things you might want to make sure are on it:

Does the young lady love God with her whole heart?  Does the young man?
Is the young lady actively serving God?  Is the young man?
Will the lady be a godly helpmeet or will she want him to be her helpmeet?
Will the young man be a godly leader?  Does he lead in prayer and read the Bible when with the young lady? Does he encourage her and others to grow spiritually?
Does the young man respect the young lady's purity to the point that he will do anything to protect her? Is he always touching the girl going further each time? A bad sign!
Does the young lady respect her purity enough that she doesn't seek the young man to touch her as much as possible?
Is the young man or lady pure? (One way of knowing how pure a mans heart is, is to look and see what kind of picture does he "Like" on facebook.  I have seen some really not-so-nicely dressed pictures of ladies on facebook, and a lot of what I thought were godly men likeing the picture, and even leaving comments.  Not good! Don't marry a guy who likes pictures of girls showing off their bodies!)
Is the young lady looking to be a princess or a queen of her home?  (A princess gets waited on and spoiled while a good queen runs her home responsibly with grace)
Is the young man looking to be a prince or a king of his home? ( A prince gets to do what he wants while a good king always considers what is right for those around him.)
Can the young man rule his finances?  Can he save money?  Does he spend it foolishly?
Does the young lady waste money on foolish things?  Can she save?  Does she know how to save?
Does the young man have enough character making him capable of supporting a wife and family no matter how hard he has to work to do it?
How does the young lady use her free time?  How does the young man use his free time?
Does the young man spend too much time gaming? (A huge problem with young men today)
Does the young man respect the girls parents? 
Is the young lady saved?  Is the young man?  Are their testimonies clear leaving no doubt?
Do the young lady and young man attend a good church?  Are they Sunday morning church goers only? 
Does the young lady have a good relationship with her dad and mom?  Does she share personal things with them? Does she listen to their counsel?
Does the young man have a good relationship with his parents?  Does he share personal things with them? Does he listen to their counsel?
Do the young man and young lady agree on children and how to raise them?
Do both the young lady and young man have daily personal devotions?
Do both the young man and young lady seek God for direction for their lives?

I hesitate to print a list but I know a lot of young lady's read this blog and I just want to encourage you to consider things before you meet Mr. Right.  Study the scriptures and see what makes a man godly.  Study the scriptures and see what makes a woman godly and how can you prepare to be the best wife possible.  Above all, do not be in a rush to get married.  If a young lady is not content to be single, as much as she thinks marriage is the answer, you will not be content married either. I know its hard when you see so many others getting married, and you're not.  I know our girls have often wondered, "Where are those godly young men?" Good question.  We've been all over the country and haven't seen very many. We also have wondered at times where the godly young ladies are! Sadly, I think a lot of godly young men get jobs, which they have to do, but in the process meet ladies at work and marry.  Be patient, ladies!  There are some wonderful young men out there!  I know one godly lady who didn't get married till she was at least 40 and married an evangelist!  Do not let your impatience make you settle for second best.  Use your single years to serve God as much as you have time for.  The Bible says in I Corinthians 7:32 that the unmarried careth for the things that belongeth to the Lord and how he may please the Lord. This was actually written to young men, but both young men and young ladies should see that they care for the Lord, and serve Him with their whole heart!  Single years serving God are so much sweeter than marrying the wrong person and having a life of struggles and heartache.  I've seen both sides of poor marriages and good ones.  Wait, and pray for the godly one God has for you and use your time to serve Him!


  1. Amen! Those are really good questions and thoughts!! Thanks for sharing!

    Sarah F.

  2. From one mom to another, thank you for sharing. Excellent points! I found the king/queen vs. prince/princess comments refreshing, and the whole post worthwhile for all young men and women to consider.



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